As we were watching the second clip to “Meet the Patels”, something stood out to me. Even though, the American culture is different from the Indian culture, there’s a universal feeling of pressure when it comes to starting a family. Its like we are programmed from childhood to make it a life purpose to marry & procreate. And this feeling never really goes away in adulthood.
The guy in the clip said some profound words. He said along the lines of him wondering if he will meet his future wife to have a family or die alone. As I get older, I’ve noticed this pressure inside me to find the mate I will marry. It’s almost feels like in a couple more years, it will be more of a feeling of urgency than just pressure. Where does this come from? Are we born to develop these feelings in adulthood or is it learnt?
I feel like we are bombarded with images of marriage and family constantly. So often that we get so caught up in this idea that we can find the one instead of letting it happen organically. We begin to force and manipulate situations because society tells us that time is ticking and if we don’t take things into our own hands then we will die alone. I guess there’s no right way to find love as long as the end result is love. But it makes me wonder, how many people went on “searches for love” to only find themselves wishing that they have waited?