Regarding the Supreme Court decision and comment on gay marriage – I came across the article I remembered from around that time highlighting the comment on unmarried people being “condemned to a life of loneliness”… Have a read and let us know what you think. As a single person, am I (and other single people) perhaps a bit overly sensitive about these remarks?
“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.”
Slate said it was “one of the most beautiful passages you’ll likely read in a court case.” The Washington Post Wonkblog called it the “one Supreme Court paragraph on love that gay marriage supporters will never forget.”
What all these people are swooning over is all-out matrimania (the over-the-top hyping of marriage and weddings and coupling). The message is that marriage is magical, transforming unremarkable unmarried people into “something greater.” It is an unapologetic declaration of the superiority of the marital bond over every other bond and every other relationship that humans hold dear. And it is a crass degrading of single people as “condemned to live in loneliness.”